Saturday, November 28, 2015

Letters from Homeland Security

Adopting is stressful.  Just when you think you have a handle on everything and are ahead of the paperwork you receive a four page letter to tell you otherwise. 

We were warned this could happen.  Apparently, the offices of the government can change their requirements whenever they want to and they do not post these changes anywhere.  The way a person finds out about these changes is by submitting the paperwork and then getting a letter in the mail to tell you of all of the changes and until you meet those changes your application can not be processed!  Our letter was four pages long and on pink paper.  Maybe the pink was meant to soften the blow...  It really just made me want to puke.

We are lucky though.  The elements missing are just words in our home study.  I don't have to search out documents or track down people.  My home study agency just has to add more words.  Let's say a little prayer that they are not bogged down and can make the changes quickly and get the appropriate papers delivered as soon as possible!

This is the fifth letter I have received from Homeland Security in the past week!  I was so excited to get the other four.  (if neighbors saw our mail with that return address they may wonder what was going on over here! bet you didn't know that foreign adoption approval comes from Homeland Security!)  I'm not so excited today.

So all you future adoptive families who will use our home study agency or our placing agency - you are welcome because now you will not get a pink colored letter that will make you want to puke and make you wonder if you still are able to go in and get fingerprinted next week because it takes time to get these appointments and they only give you one specific day and time to do it.  You will not add on a month of waiting time with your documents like we just have!  You are welcome!


Friday, November 6, 2015

In the Meantime...

Working on paperwork for the dossier!
Between activities for the kids, meetings for the home study, getting papers signed for the adoption, gathering papers to renew our foster care license, planning birthday parties for the kids, working, and keeping house, we also accepted a six year old girl and then a three year old girl into our home for a bit!

It has been awhile since we have had a foster child for more then a weekend of respite.  I had forgotten some of what it was like, but it comes back pretty fast!  I love that the kids are trying to speak Spanish again!  With Jackson having a Spanish class it helps with some of the vocabulary I don't remember.  Although, I did tell him that he needed to tell his teacher he needed more useful everyday language like "turn off the light" or "throw your toilet paper in the toilet and not in the trash can" and forget about what the word for pencil sharpener is! (although I think that is my favorite word to say in Spanish!)  It is funny that all of us seem to be talking to the poor dog in Spanish too!  I don't know why we do that, but it seems to happen!  He looks confused sometimes, but with each new toddler he forgives us because he knows he can grab treats from them!

So today, while bringing the three year old with me, who is the cutest, smartest little thing ever, I was finally able to deliver our I-600A form to UPS where it will be sent with other documents to USCIS.  This is the part where our government decides if we are good candidates to adopt.  Once they approve us, we will have to be fingerprinted to be sure one last time that we are not criminals.  We will then get one more form which we need to include in the dossier.  I am crossing my fingers that once we get this form I will have all of the paperwork needed to turn everything in for our dossier!

We haven't gotten a referral yet, but I am confident it is because it just isn't the right time.  I was really anxious to be matched when we first signed up, but this way is nice too because I don't feel all of the anxiety that I have a little one waiting for me to bring her home and I am waiting on stupid paperwork!  It seems our paperwork will all be ready to go as soon as she is!

As we go into the weekend we will have a full house!  Tonight we will do respite for a 5 and 2 year old so add that to our three and our foster daughter who is three that we have now.  Should be fun! :)  I also have a stack of papers to notarize and then organize.  Baby steps...